Handling crisis situations better - learning resilience
I am not sure if I would even recommend this topic, but leave this discussion to the public. The real tip for me is to point out the different ways of looking at life and destiny.
This post raises no psychological claim. I would like to show, from my own experience and as a directly affected person, different ways of learning how to deal better with crises and crisis situations.
There are people who cope with stress, setbacks, rejection or frustration better than other people. Why is that? The answer: These people are resilient. Other people, on the other hand, are thrown off track by the slightest failure, are less resilient and much more sensitive than other people. But if people remain stable in stressful situations, this ability is called resilience? designated.
Not everyone can take crises less hard than others, but resilience can be trained, though the basics have been laid in childhood: appreciation, encouragement, and support make each child more resilient to further life. Nevertheless, one can also learn to be resilient as an adult:
What is resilience?
Resilient people accept change, do not fight it. Change is part of their lives, and every crisis is seen as a situation that needs to be overcome. Adapting to the new situation is the key word and the acceptance that there is not always a solution to every problem, but that sometimes you have to accept something and not get an answer to every question. They accept what is inevitable.
It is not just about crisis situations such as illness, loss, heartbreak or separation, but also about everyday situations such as unpleasant work: whining and lamenting does not improve the situation. Instead, you should look at it from a different perspective: What benefit do I have when doing this work now? Targeted search for benefits makes the decision much easier. For example, I have always in mind that it could be worse or worse and already it is easier for me to accept the current situation.
Acceptance is a very important topic at all:
Reality and grief associated with it in crisis situations, negative feelings, fears or anger are not denied by resilient people.
However, these people do not see themselves as victims, but take responsibility for their lives and actions. They are aware that they can influence the course of life and can always change something in a situation. They are optimistic, they know that there are times in life when things are not always going smoothly, and that the tide can and always will turn around again.
Do not retreat, stay open-minded, seek and accept help from outside, build new friendships that can provide support - that too is helpful in crisis situations.
For me it is very important to mention Optimism! Believe, no, know that there are always hard times and setbacks in life and yet firmly believe that things will turn out well again.
That's easy to say for serious illnesses that do not turn out well. But I can confirm that a different perspective is learnable and happy.
Resilient people experience no less unpleasant situations than other people, or even remain spared: they only see more positive things in the situation, give the positive moments more space and in crisis situations always assume that they will survive them: optimism gives courage and gives strength and strength. Learning from crises! How many times have you heard and read this, but it is a fact that many people say: I have learned from this crisis. If I had not gotten sick, I would have lived on like before. Now I see the essential and important things for me ...
Of course, it is not easy for everyone to slip out of their own skin and there are blows of fate that make it almost impossible to look forward positively. The pain is so deep that one is glad to survive the day at all. But then it is important to look for small positive things. The pain is not diminished by the fact that one is not so unutterably sad for a moment and positive thoughts have their justification even in these situations.
There are ways of thinking that can be used to deal with the adversities of life:
I will grow in a crisis. What can I learn from them?
You can learn the new paradigm in very small steps
- If you are annoyed about a traffic ticket - you can see it from the side, why it happened: I drove too fast! It might have come to an accident in the near future without this warning.
- I was not included in the promotion again! If I give my best and can not get any further, maybe I should look for a new job
- My child stayed seated. Maybe he will realize that it will take more effort to get ahead (it was a lesson to him).
There are many situations where you can always draw something positive. It is not at all about whether it is useful or useful, but only to change the perspective of the events, to train with such small exercises and to rehearse a new paradigm.
This little workout can help to diverge a little from the painful side and gradually focus more and more on the positive.
It is very important to mention that it is never a question of ignoring or not allowing suffering and sorrow; however, it can happen that the gap between suffering and the time when one sees positives becomes shorter and shorter over time.
I can confirm it: I am concerned!
This post raises no psychological claim. I would like to show, from my own experience and as a directly affected person, different ways of learning how to deal better with crises and crisis situations.
There are people who cope with stress, setbacks, rejection or frustration better than other people. Why is that? The answer: These people are resilient. Other people, on the other hand, are thrown off track by the slightest failure, are less resilient and much more sensitive than other people. But if people remain stable in stressful situations, this ability is called resilience? designated.
Not everyone can take crises less hard than others, but resilience can be trained, though the basics have been laid in childhood: appreciation, encouragement, and support make each child more resilient to further life. Nevertheless, one can also learn to be resilient as an adult:
What is resilience?
Resilient people accept change, do not fight it. Change is part of their lives, and every crisis is seen as a situation that needs to be overcome. Adapting to the new situation is the key word and the acceptance that there is not always a solution to every problem, but that sometimes you have to accept something and not get an answer to every question. They accept what is inevitable.
It is not just about crisis situations such as illness, loss, heartbreak or separation, but also about everyday situations such as unpleasant work: whining and lamenting does not improve the situation. Instead, you should look at it from a different perspective: What benefit do I have when doing this work now? Targeted search for benefits makes the decision much easier. For example, I have always in mind that it could be worse or worse and already it is easier for me to accept the current situation.
Acceptance is a very important topic at all:
Reality and grief associated with it in crisis situations, negative feelings, fears or anger are not denied by resilient people.
However, these people do not see themselves as victims, but take responsibility for their lives and actions. They are aware that they can influence the course of life and can always change something in a situation. They are optimistic, they know that there are times in life when things are not always going smoothly, and that the tide can and always will turn around again.
Do not retreat, stay open-minded, seek and accept help from outside, build new friendships that can provide support - that too is helpful in crisis situations.
For me it is very important to mention Optimism! Believe, no, know that there are always hard times and setbacks in life and yet firmly believe that things will turn out well again.
That's easy to say for serious illnesses that do not turn out well. But I can confirm that a different perspective is learnable and happy.
Resilient people experience no less unpleasant situations than other people, or even remain spared: they only see more positive things in the situation, give the positive moments more space and in crisis situations always assume that they will survive them: optimism gives courage and gives strength and strength. Learning from crises! How many times have you heard and read this, but it is a fact that many people say: I have learned from this crisis. If I had not gotten sick, I would have lived on like before. Now I see the essential and important things for me ...
Of course, it is not easy for everyone to slip out of their own skin and there are blows of fate that make it almost impossible to look forward positively. The pain is so deep that one is glad to survive the day at all. But then it is important to look for small positive things.The pain is not diminished by the fact that one is not so unutterably sad for a moment and positive thoughts have their justification even in these situations.
There are ways of thinking that can be used to deal with the adversities of life:
I will grow in a crisis. What can I learn from them?
You can learn the new paradigm in very small steps
- If you are annoyed about a traffic ticket - you can see it from the side, why it happened: I drove too fast! It might have come to an accident in the near future without this warning.
- I was not included in the promotion again! If I give my best and can not get any further, maybe I should look for a new job
- My child stayed seated. Maybe he will realize that it will take more effort to get ahead (it was a lesson to him).
There are many situations where you can always draw something positive. It is not at all about whether it is useful or useful, but only to change the perspective of the events, to train with such small exercises and to rehearse a new paradigm.
This little workout can help to diverge a little from the painful side and gradually focus more and more on the positive.
It is very important to mention that it is never a question of ignoring or not allowing suffering and sorrow; however, it can happen that the gap between suffering and the time when one sees positives becomes shorter and shorter over time.
I can confirm it: I am concerned!
