My experiences of birth
I have noticed that there is no tip for the birth itself, but at the time afterwards. That's a pity, because if you know, you can save a lot of annoying. I have given birth to two children and it has gotten better. I hope it can get better with the third party.
I did just about everything wrong with the first child, what you can do wrong, even though I read almost all the books on the subject that I could find. I thought I was optimally prepared for that, but that was wrong. You can not swim perfectly after reading all the books, on the contrary ... I was in the birth preparation course, in the follow-up course, I found that over 60% of women had requested a (wishful) caesarean section. I did not want that. Why? Some "could not go any further" at birth, they no longer had the strength or energy to push their child out into the world. Others were scared. That's why I've learned that you need good physical fitness to be able to deliver a baby well, but what I did not need was: My over-trained pelvic floor! Riding and martial arts and pelvic floor exercises are a guarantee for a difficult birth. So, at the risk of knocking some on the head or challenging midwives and doctors, I write what I learned at birth. I can not guarantee the accuracy of everything I write, just the way I felt. The birth actually starts much earlier than the classic contractions. It's like the cervix can open a bit in the last few weeks and that's great! It's a sign that the birth will go faster, the gynecologist told me.
I moved in the last weeks before birth normal in everyday life, even my then 2-year-old son back and forth. The night before the baby came, I did something you should not do during pregnancy, because it softens the cervix: I ate a whole bag of salty liquorice. The ingredients soften the cervix even more. My defiant 2-year-olds I had to carry then also from room A to room B and in the night we started. It was about two weeks early. I believe that the cervix, which had been up to three to four inches the week before, has gone so far that it has given the start of labor pains. It started like light menstrual pain. I made myself a ready-made pizza - not anymore! You need strength for childbirth, but too much food makes labor contractions difficult. Without this easy meal, I would have been smeared. In bed at home, I waited once. The pain had been good and I wanted to stay there. So far, I believe that you can relax a lot better in a familiar environment. In addition, the hospital is coupled with the idea of pain and discomfort. It was stupid that when I was in the hospital I actually had much worse pain immediately, because I knew: "Now it gets serious". - The midwife was nice and understanding. Nevertheless, the stupid hospital feeling remained. I felt watched, also because everything was recorded by birth report. It is always better for the child.
Getting around at the opening pains helps. Breathe in the stomach is nothing new, but it was difficult for me, while I have a good lung volume as a lifeguard. The most important thing is to stay relaxed even though you are in the hospital. I have always stared at the drawer on the wall with the inscription: "Notsectio". There were Scarpelle in there and gloves and nasty gadgets to cut one's stomach down ... Ergo: FEAR makes it bad, maybe knowing what it all can be. I would have been glad to not have read so many books, but I had the knowledge. Just stupid, that you can not bring a child with the mind into the world, it just happens. Who is unsophisticated, has a great advantage, or has anyone ever seen a cow at a birth preparation course? You have to let it happen, and be kind to the midwife, do not scream so badly, because that annoys her, she hears it all the time. She can do a great dam protection, if she wants, if she finds you super etching, then maybe she will not give all her art, because she will not be paid extra for that. Then you have a crack, so what? And then you have to be able to endure - the pain I found scary, while they are just a sign that everything is going great. That should also provide a birth preparation course, I still believe in Lamaze and his painless birth (well, a bit). The birth is like a marathon, and in the end you have to have strength for a sprint. ;-) The pressing is exhausting.
The worst thing is not to be ashamed, because faeces may leak out, e.g. or because you make funny faces. That's all normal. After my second birth I saw interesting videos about the birth on youtube.I was most impressed by the video: "A natural birth in a clinic in Chile." So, that was my collected mustard, which I wanted to add to the topic. I did not have a tear on the second child (Juhuuuu!), And the midwife said that if I had waited longer between the two children then the second birth (6 hours) would have been the same as the first one (about 16 hours). Anyway ... maybe you write me, what made your birth easier? Was it music? Or essential oils (I brought rose oil and put it on my forehead to smell the scent)? What did you do to deal with the fear?
