Everything Knigge, or what?
As Adolph Freiherr Knigge in 1788 his work?About dealing with people? published, he probably could not have guessed that his Benimmbuch would be just under 230 years later still in conversation. Here is the term? Benimmbuch? misleading: It was not in Knigge's intention to write a set of rules about the correct table manners in fine company. Rather, his book was supposed to be a guidebook on how to properly deal with?People of different temperaments, temperaments and moods of the mind and heart? bypasses. Only after Knigges death in the year 1796 the publishing house supplemented his work around the behavior and behavior rules known to this day.
The? Real Knigge? is up to date
Our modern time allows communication in seconds within every distance and border. Unprecedented just a few decades ago, the possibilities of a PC and smartphone offer plenty of space for verbal missteps of any kind. It is all the more important to adhere to the basic rules of human interaction. Especially when it comes to sharing with people of different temperaments, temperaments etc.? is, otherwise it quickly comes to misunderstandings and strife. A phenomenon that shows itself in many comments here at TheFruitAndFlowerBasket very vividly. Note: Not every biting remark can be defused with a smiley face.
Courtesy counts
"Courtesy is a capital that makes the richer who spends it." In my opinion, this Persian proverb nicely gets to the point. If you want to get along well with other people, you should be polite. Unfortunately, the concept of courtesy is very vague and subject to constant change. What was considered polite yesterday, can look stale tomorrow or stuffy. Does the modern man still help an emancipated woman in the coat? And who pays the bill in the restaurant? In particular, the older generation complains about the loss of alleged earlier better manners. At that time everything was somehow? More tinsel ?. Is this just the subjective feeling and rumbling oils of the eternally yesterday? Surveys say no: Around 75 percent of respondents of all ages think that people used to be more polite. Incidentally, I also see it that way. Let's take a look at two of the most common issues of courtesy: the Duz-address and punctuality.
May I duce you or must I sweeten you?
The hierarchies are getting flatter. This applies both in everyday working life as well as in private coexistence. Stand differences are now playing a minor role. The fact that someone from? Good home? is coming, is no longer a criterion for me, whether I am orzeze him. And in the net anyway are all the same? Here, the Duzen already belongs to the good sound. I like that. On the other hand, I appreciate that? as a salutation in real life a lot. It protects against confidentiality too quickly and creates a distance from which I can first classify my counterpart. People, who are obviously older than me, I thze basically only after a request. In a respectful and friendly way has the salutation for me? and the first name proven.
As a punctual person you stand around a lot and wait
"My punctuality expresses that your time is as valuable to me as my own." This quote by the social pedagogue Helga Schäferling actually says it all. I have always been one of those people who value punctuality. More on your own than on the other. When I look at my recent appointments, I seem to stand there quite lonely. The famous academic district is dead, long live the unakademische half hour. There is now my pain threshold: After 30 minutes waiting time without apology from the latecomers I just go. Everyone has a cell phone and can call or send a text message that he is late. There are very few moments in life when adherence to this simple courtesy rule would not be possible.
For the rest applies: to prove instinct
In all other forms of courtesy, in addition to the correct duet and punctuality, one can basically remember a simple rule of thumb: everything that we find polite to ourselves will look similar to the rest of humanity. Berlin is not exactly known as a haven of good manners, but even here a stalled door makes for grateful looks. What kind of rudeness is not apologetic for you? I'm curious and let you in the comments politely precedence. Buy now 
About dealing with people 6,95 ?
